Parents Voice in Government School Education

The philosophy

The ideas behind Relationship Based Education

In these articles, John Hendry (with help from other writers and thinkers) lays out the philosophical basis for Relationship Based Education.

John says that relationships are not a ‘side issue’ or an ‘add-on’ in the world of education; they are central, they are the ground from which everything else grows.

Schools are inherently social places, and learning happens in a context of many relationships – between students and teachers, teachers and parents, students and other students, all the way to the office staff and the crossing supervisor.

Relationships matter

John argues that teachers, parents and children need an understanding of relationships – how to form and sustain them, how to deal with mistakes and conflicts, how to recognise positives and negatives – in order to create an environment where children can thrive and learn.

The central message of John’s work is, “relationships matter”. Quality relationships are fundamental to our mental and physical health, our capacity to do well, to contribute and to add meaning to our lives.


One of the critical elements of a quality relationship is trust. Many factors in our modern society have led to an undermining of trust in institutions and in our fellow human beings. But we can learn to form quality relationships based on trust, and these relationships are the basis of a positive and resilient culture in any group or organisation – and that includes schools.

Articles on this topic

RbE – an introduction booklet

At the PV2019 Annual Conference we launched a collection of articles, published in an introduction booklet to RbE. The articles set out some of the basic principles of Relationship based Education. Article titles are: How

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The Relationship Quotient

Whether it is a friendship, a team, a family, a school, a business, a romance or the relationship between a teacher and her students, there are values that underpin successful quality relationships. This series of

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Restorative practices

Restorative practices & relationship-based education Download this article as a PDF There tend to be two understandings of a “restorative approach” and/or “restorative programs” in schools: one is simple, perhaps simplistic, the other is more

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Positive learners mindset

“A Positive Learner’s Mindset requires a positive, trusting relationship between teacher and student. This is the art of great teaching: to reframe tasks, create support that overrides fear, develop a sense of success, encourage the

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Retribution or reparation

“First do no harm.” (Hippocratic oath). No one has a licence to harm another. Retribution and harm Behaviour that is harming another is also harming the person so behaving. It is essential to arrest that

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Beyond punitive discipline

Punitive discipline or relationship management Schools are complex organisations. Their primary task is to provide an environment where students can learn. School authorities are legally and morally (and pragmatically) responsible for maintaining an appropriate degree

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Co-operation and other-centred behaviour

Self-centred / other-centred behaviour How we behave is determined by a complex set of forces found within ourselves and the living moments we experience. Each situation possesses forces that influence our behaviour.  The context in

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Dignity and contribution

This article, by Dr Donna Hicks from the Weatherhead Center for International Affairs at Harvard University, sets out the Ten Essential Elements of Digity, and conversely the Ten Elements to Violate Dignity. “Dignity not only

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Resilient culture

The basis of a resilient culture A resilient culture is an inclusive culture, one that appreciates the fact that people do struggle with challenges and this struggle can limit motivation, engagement and application. The resilient

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The 5 elements of a quality relationship

The five basic elements of a quality relationship are trust. forgiveness, integrity, hope and compassion. Each of these are important individually, but in concert they substantiate the relationship. Each is established upon giving, for without

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Baby Photos

How about running a ‘baby photos of the staff’ competition for your school?  Entry can be a gold coin and the baby photos of the

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Fundraising soaps

Looking for an alternative to lolly fundraisers? Ecostore offers “Good Soap for a Good Cause” – a convenient fundraiser with plant-based soaps instead of sweets.

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