6 Ways to De-Escalate a Heated Argument
Sometimes conversations can get out of hand—emotions run high, hurtful words are used, past mistakes brought up. However, it’s never too late to turn a
Relationship based Education is a philosophy of education that puts relationships at the centre.
It is a tool for long-term culture change and for addressing challenges.
The key messages are:
Parents Victoria has 97 years’ experience when it comes to listening to parents and educators. We know that things don’t always run smoothly; misunderstandings and conflicts occur between teachers and students, between school and home, and we’ve helped to resolve many of them. We believe that quality relationships are the key to quality education for our children. These pages provide empirical evidence, a philosophical background, practical advice and examples to support our belief that relationships are central to learning.
The resources on these pages are intended for educators and parents.
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If you want a little more detail, this collection of articles by John Hendry OAM and David Moore explore the issues of a kind/resilient culture, the ‘me first/we first’ distinction, and restorative practices.
Our 2022 Annual Conference focused on RbE, and all the presentations are available on video. We looked at the What and Why of RbE with John Hendry OAM (originator of RbE) and Kristin Reimer PhD from Monash University. We also learned a lot about the How from two schools that have implemented RbE: Ocean Grove Primary School and Prahran High School. Their stories are inspiring!
Sometimes conversations can get out of hand—emotions run high, hurtful words are used, past mistakes brought up. However, it’s never too late to turn a
These two newspaper articles explore alternative approaches to suspending students as a disciplinary measure. “Help disruptive students, don’t just suspend them” This article from The
Everyone must feel safe at all times, so keep in mind the CPR rule for all your interactions: Connect Protect Respect Bring them together Once
Repairing the relationship Restorative practices need to be fashioned carefully to focus on the relationship dislocation and the obligations one has within relationships to repair
“A Positive Learner’s Mindset requires a positive, trusting relationship between teacher and student. This is the art of great teaching: to reframe tasks, create support
“First do no harm.” (Hippocratic oath). No one has a licence to harm another. Retribution and harm Behaviour that is harming another is also harming
Punitive discipline or relationship management Schools are complex organisations. Their primary task is to provide an environment where students can learn. School authorities are legally
Self-centred / other-centred behaviour How we behave is determined by a complex set of forces found within ourselves and the living moments we experience. Each
This article, by Dr Donna Hicks from the Weatherhead Center for International Affairs at Harvard University, sets out the Ten Essential Elements of Digity, and
The basis of a resilient culture A resilient culture is an inclusive culture, one that appreciates the fact that people do struggle with challenges and
Sometimes conversations can get out of hand—emotions run high, hurtful words are used, past mistakes brought up. However, it’s never too late to turn a conflict around. This article from Psychology Today provides six tips
These two newspaper articles explore alternative approaches to suspending students as a disciplinary measure. “Help disruptive students, don’t just suspend them” This article from The Conversation quotes extensive research that shows suspension doesn’t work in
Everyone must feel safe at all times, so keep in mind the CPR rule for all your interactions: Connect Protect Respect Bring them together Once this is done the parties can be constructively brought together
Repairing the relationship Restorative practices need to be fashioned carefully to focus on the relationship dislocation and the obligations one has within relationships to repair damage or dislocation. Where there has been an incident of
“A Positive Learner’s Mindset requires a positive, trusting relationship between teacher and student. This is the art of great teaching: to reframe tasks, create support that overrides fear, develop a sense of success, encourage the
“First do no harm.” (Hippocratic oath). No one has a licence to harm another. Retribution and harm Behaviour that is harming another is also harming the person so behaving. It is essential to arrest that
Punitive discipline or relationship management Schools are complex organisations. Their primary task is to provide an environment where students can learn. School authorities are legally and morally (and pragmatically) responsible for maintaining an appropriate degree
Self-centred / other-centred behaviour How we behave is determined by a complex set of forces found within ourselves and the living moments we experience. Each situation possesses forces that influence our behaviour. The context in
This article, by Dr Donna Hicks from the Weatherhead Center for International Affairs at Harvard University, sets out the Ten Essential Elements of Digity, and conversely the Ten Elements to Violate Dignity. “Dignity not only
The basis of a resilient culture A resilient culture is an inclusive culture, one that appreciates the fact that people do struggle with challenges and this struggle can limit motivation, engagement and application. The resilient
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